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Bekka_5
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Posts: 4
Registered: 06-27-2006 Location: stuart,FL
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posted on 06-28-2006 at 12:11 |
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in love wit someone 7 years older than me
I really like this guy named Paul and hes 23, Im a 16 year old female and I think about him all the time, and i dont feel awkward about his age. i can NEVER stop talking about him. i kno he likes me too because he told me. i fantasize alot of things with him. and he says he wants a relationship with me. of course i do too, but heres the catch, he has a 8 month old daughter! is this ok or should i forget about him. Im really confused. but yet i love him cuz hes very caring. im jus worried about my parents freaking out. HELP, plzzz
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luckycharmsuntouched
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Posts: 37
Registered: 06-04-2006 Location:
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posted on 06-28-2006 at 18:10 |
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look, heres the deal...
you are 16 and he is 23 what could you possibly have in common with this person. you are both going through completely different stages in life right now so where is your common ground. plus, not to offend you, but what would a 23 year old man want with a 16 year old girl? i would wonder if his intentions are pure. and have you thought of something call statutory rape?? he is an adult and you are a minor. he could go to jail for just persuing you in a romantic way.
and the subject of his child...a 16 year old is not old enough nor do they have enough life experiance to be a parental figure for a small child. Are you ready to take on a parenting role? what does the baby's mother think of it all?
be careful you have to look out for your self interest as well as safety. do you really know him? i know its hard to ask yourself these questions when you really like someone. you just have to look at things for what they are. he is WAY too old for you.
try becoming involved with someone who is closer to your age and has more in common with you. look out for your self. and if you love him like you claim to, then you will realize that dating him is a bad decision for him as well. think about him possibly having to go to jail.
take things slow and keep your witts about you.
good luck
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AyaSan
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Posts: 27
Registered: 08-25-2006 Location:
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posted on 08-26-2006 at 21:19 |
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my opinion
im not here to judge so my first opinion about what you are going through is this. there are relationships where the guy is alot older than the girl. and hey, maybe even though your age is 16, your mind is already at the 20s. so if you think he loves you and you love him, then i hope you guys have a wonderful life together. HOWEVEr! before you do anything you might regret. consider this! he is an adult and you are still a minor. you might think you love him and think he loves you also JUST because he told you that, but he might be lying to you. i must remind you it is against the law if you guys have any sexual relationship. this will not only bring you problems with your friends and family but it will land that man in JAIL! so in MY OPINION! you are much too young. maybe you guys can stay friends first and really learn what type of person he is. and tell him if he really does love you, he would at least wait for you till you're 18. and the thing about him having a 8 month of kid. i can say you can learn alot about a man by the way he treat kids. go hang aroudn with them, see how he is with his kid, does he yell or anything? you can still play with the kid and not expect yourself to be the mother anytime soon right? i do agree with luckycharm, do take things slower. 16 is a presious age and you don't want to miss any thing out just because you think you love a 23 yr old man and his kid. good luck.
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